This Months Invitation: May

This month we ground…

Welcome to May. I feel like we’re just… jumping in, full steam ahead, with this Full Moon in Scorpio on May 1st. And as someone with a few Scorpio placements - take this in the most vague, non-astrologer way possible - Scorpio energy likes to go deep and come out the other side… a little different, a little clearer, maybe a little undone and then rebuilt.

So with that energy in mind… plus the world being its usual slow-burning dumpster fire, the mini existential spirals about AI taking over everything, and just… adult life doing what adult life does… grounding felt like the thing we actually need. And also the thing we most often overlook.

Because here’s the thing, therapy calls these grounding tools “coping skills.” Personal development calls them “anchoring techniques.” The spiritual world calls them “rituals.” And I use all three because my work lives in all three. But honestly… I don’t really care what you call them. I care that they work for you.

And I want to be really clear about how they work.

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These tools are not here to make sure you never feel anxious again. They’re not here to prevent hard days or fix the very human experience of life sometimes just… sucking. They’re here to bring you back. To rebalance, refocus, and realign you when you feel like you left your body in your bed and somehow still made it to work.

And I’ll be honest, my relationship with these tools did not always look like this.

For a long time, I used coping strategies like they were some kind of insurance policy against ever having a panic attack again. And when that didn’t work, because it doesn’t, I made it mean something about me. That I wasn’t disciplined enough. Not consistent enough. Not doing it “right.” Not perfect.

So I’d quit. Try something new. Repeat the cycle.

It took years, and honestly, Human Design, to realize that grounding and rituals aren’t one-size-fits-all. They work differently depending on your energy and how you move through the world.

For me? I need cleansing. I need movement before I can sit still. I need someone to basically force me to journal. And I cannot do the same thing every day. I need choice. I need options. I need to feel like I’m taking care of myself, not performing self-care perfectly.

Which is why I don’t have one grounding practice. I have a toolbox.

And I use it day by day… sometimes hour by hour.

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Most of these take just a few minutes because let’s be real, who actually has time for a 60-minute ritual every day? And if you do, amazing, keep going… but maybe also check in with why.

These are quick, simple, and they help me shift. They help me move from one part of my life to another. They help me come back when I’ve spiraled so far into my head I can’t see a way out.

I treat them like options, not obligations.

So throughout the day (morning, afternoon, evening) I ask myself: what do I need right now? And then I pick something that meets me there.

That’s the practice.

Try all of these. Try none of them. Create your own. But don’t get stuck doing the same thing every single day hoping it will magically fix everything. No one thing will. But the right thing, at the right moment, might shift something in a way that actually matters.

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Here are my go-to rituals, coping skills, and anchors:

1. Laying on the floor—front, back, doesn’t matter—for 90 seconds or one song

2. Binaural beats (I live for these—sleep or anxiety playlists)

3. Epsom salt baths

4. Standing on salt

5. Salt in a cup by your bed—fill it on Sunday, empty and reset the following Sunday, start over (Clearly I use salt a lot)

6. Slow, intentional movement—yoga, walks outside, pilates, weight training

7. Five deep breaths, one hand on your heart, one on your belly

8. Walking barefoot outside

9. Lighting a candle, then blowing it out

10. An oracle or tarot card pull

11. Deleting social media from my phone (honestly, underrated)

12. A cup of warm water

13. Changing clothes between roles (client mode → mom mode)

14. Essential oils—especially on my feet

15. Progressive muscle relaxation

16. The class (If you don’t know you’ll just have to try)

17. A meditation on Insight Timer (this is usually where I start)

18. Reading—something that gets me out of my head and into someone else’s world

19. A quick dance party

20. Cleaning my space—outer calm really does help inner calm

This month, try what feels good. Let it be flexible. Let it meet you where you are.

And if you’re ready to figure out what your grounding toolbox actually looks like, based on your energy, your patterns, your real life, that’s exactly what we do inside a Therapeutic Human Design reading.

Tell me what works. What you love. What you hate. Add to the list. I’m always experimenting, always tweaking, always learning what actually supports us in the middle of real life.

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If you’re in the “I know better but I’m not living it yet” phase… this is the work I care about most.

You can stay here and read, or step a little deeper— through a Human Design reading, a workshop, 1x1 intuitive coaching, or just letting this be the place you come back to.

Either way, I’m really glad you’re here.